Lots of articles were written and discussions opened about this mistirious part of the women's body. Here I present you the article, which consolidates information from the past and gives you some hints, which are not that well-known (I expect this article will be usefull not only for men, but for women as well).
There is nothing you can do more for you lady than to be a considerate and proficient lover.
In today’s world however, getting the girl to love you is one thing, but getting her to enjoy your lovemaking and finish to orgasm on a regular basis will make you a hero.
So, what is the G-spot? Where is it?
The G-spot is an area inside the vagina which is packed with nerve endings and engorges with blood when the woman is sexually excited. The G-spot is on the top wall of the vagina, about 5 to 7 cm from the vaginal opening. It is a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of the vagina.
Why is It Important to the Sexual – lovemaking act?
About 50% of all women get very aroused and feel sublime pleasure when the man is able to stimulate it. The area around the spot engorges with blood (as does a penis and clitoris) and aids in a complete orgasm.
How do I Find it? Once Found, Then What?
The best way to find it (at first) is to engage in cunnilingus and while the woman is excited, insert your fist two fingers pointing upward, as if they were the hands of a clock at about 12:15, some 5 to 7 cm from the vaginal opening.
Make a “come here” motion with the two fingers, while making sure your tongue is very busy the clitoris. The G-spot itself then makes itself very prominent, and regardless if you lady orgasms or not (and should you keep this up for about 20 minutes, she will), move to the position below.
What is the Position to Guarantee Stimulation of the G-spot?
Much has been said and written about this subject, with suggestions of the girl-on-top and doggy-style as good for G-spot stimulation. While these positions may work, their effectiveness is questionable. Both of these positions do not utilize the natural anatomy of the woman or the physics of an erection. An erect penis will (usually should) tilt upwards. This tilt in the other two positions suggested with naturally tilt away, not towards the G-spot. Only the couple’s moving and adjusting may bring the penis into contact with the G-spot.
However, there is a guaranteed position that works every time, and is easy and enjoyable for both the man and woman. This is called (from the Ancient Chinese) Breaking Down the Palace Gates.
The woman must be at the correct angle. It can be done in bed with pillows, or easily done with woman lying down on a table with her legs brought slightly to her breast. Her back should be supported at about a 15% angle by pillows.
The man stands in front of her, and enters slowly. He will see that the angle is perfect and will feel the crown of his penis soon rubbing against the soft ridges of her G-spot area.
Deep thrusting is not required, in fact shallow trusting or just pressing of his penis against the spot will be ecstasy to his partner. Most women will cry with pleasure as this is done, and she will melt underneath you. Then, you can begin alternating between shallow and deep thrusting, till you slowly bring her to orgasm. The man must practice self-control, as he will be ready to finish before the woman is.
The lack of thrusting in this position will help the man delay his orgasm.
This position hits the G-spot every time, and if you are a conscientious lover, you will achieve for your partner orgasms she and you will remember.
Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Friday, April 13, 2007
Online dating - making couples, or making money?
Some people think that online dating services were developed to help people find each other, to bring love to the earth by the means of modern technologies. Others think that it is just another way to make money... Read the statistics gathered by Online Dating Magazine and make your mind!
- Online Dating Magazine estimates that more than 20 million people visit at least one online dating service a month. (Online Dating Magazine - 2007)
- 31% of adults in America say they know someone who has used an online dating service. (Source: Pew Internet & American Life Project Report: Online Dating, March 2006)
- In 2003 it was estimated that three million people paid for an online dating service listing. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- In the first half of 2003, consumers spent over $214 million for online dating services. This number is 76 percent higher than the same time last year. (Source: Online Publishers Association)
- On average, those paying for online dating services spend a total of $239 per year. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- It is estimated that the financial growth of online dating will reach $642 million in 2008. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- As of February 2005, 33% fewer consumers are browsing online personals today than one year ago, causing the industry growth to slow considerably. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- Consumers spent $214.3 million on personals and dating content during the first half of 2003, up 76 percent from the same period in 2002. (Source: Online Publishers Association).
- Online Dating Magazine estimates that more than 20 million people visit at least one online dating service a month. (Online Dating Magazine - 2007)
- 31% of adults in America say they know someone who has used an online dating service. (Source: Pew Internet & American Life Project Report: Online Dating, March 2006)
- In 2003 it was estimated that three million people paid for an online dating service listing. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- In the first half of 2003, consumers spent over $214 million for online dating services. This number is 76 percent higher than the same time last year. (Source: Online Publishers Association)
- On average, those paying for online dating services spend a total of $239 per year. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- It is estimated that the financial growth of online dating will reach $642 million in 2008. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- As of February 2005, 33% fewer consumers are browsing online personals today than one year ago, causing the industry growth to slow considerably. (Source: Jupiter Research)
- Consumers spent $214.3 million on personals and dating content during the first half of 2003, up 76 percent from the same period in 2002. (Source: Online Publishers Association).
Thursday, April 12, 2007
How to make a nice memory of your first kiss
Great Breath - This is very important. Make sure you brush your teeth before going out on your date. There is nothing worse than kissing someone with bad breath.
If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.
Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey.
And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss.
Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.
Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.
Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.
Tongue - Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner's tongue. Do not force your tongue too far into their mouth. If you wish, you can play with their tongue by circling theirs with your own. Have fun with it. Explore.
Lips - You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.
For further information on online single dating services, internet dating, and dating tips and guide, log on to http://www.cupid.com.
If your date consists of having something to eat before the actual kiss, make sure you have a mint on hand to take right after you finish eating. Don't take the mint just before the kiss or chew on gum. You don't want to have something in your mouth when you kiss.
Moist Lips - You want your lips to be slightly moist when you kiss. Run your tongue over your lips once before you kiss. Don't wear lip gloss because that tends to make the kiss too gooey.
And don't wear a lot of lipstick unless you want your partner to wear it too after the kiss.
Positioning - Stand close to your partner. As the two of you move closer together tilt your head slightly. If you can see which way your partner's head is tilting, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction.
Close Eyes - Just before your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people prefer to leave their eyes open during the kiss. But until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes.
Open Lips - Open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner's lips. Do not hold your breath! Breath through your nose. As your lips meet, press them gently over your partner's. You may wish to move your lips in a slow, circular motion or just leave them still over your partners.
Tongue - Place the tip of your tongue on the tip of your partner's tongue. Do not force your tongue too far into their mouth. If you wish, you can play with their tongue by circling theirs with your own. Have fun with it. Explore.
Lips - You may explore different ways of using your tongue. Try running the tip of your tongue over your partner's lips. Do this slowly and gently, just using the tip of your tongue.
For further information on online single dating services, internet dating, and dating tips and guide, log on to http://www.cupid.com.
Wednesday, April 11, 2007
Do you believe in cheating statistics?
All people are curious about difference type of statistics - average earnings, average grade in school, number and type of sexual relations , masturbation regularity, average life expectancy and so on. In this article I have decided to find out, who cheats more and what the trends are.
Do not think it was an easy task, because depending on the source you are using the results will vary enormously, take a look at these article headlines:
12% of women cheat, 22% of men cheat
The National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago published a ...
20% of women cheat, 40% of men cheat
Dr. Scott Haltzman, Barrington psychiatrist: "By age 45, two out of every ...
22% of women cheat, 37% of men cheat
According to AskBob.com, up to 22% of women have been unfaithful at least once ...
25% of women cheat, 33% of men cheat
Janus Report on Sexual Behavior (1993) found: "More than one-third of men ...
So, what one can conclude from all this, is the fact that men cheat more then women... Or it is just a myth?
After thorough research of the topic I have managed to find something, what seems to be a real statistics, so enjoy the facts, brought to us by the Playboy Magazine:
-2 out of 3 women and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers.
-86% of men and 81% of women admit they routinely flirt with the opposite sex.
-75% of men and 65% of women admit to having sex with people they work with.
-The fact is that human beings are NOT monogamous by nature. That means they cheat
According to what experts say 85% of woman who feel their lover is cheating are correct. 50% of men who feel their lover is cheating are right. The first clue is seldom obvious. Typically, it's a "feeling" that something is different. If you are a woman - believe to your gut feeling, if a man - think twice!
Cheating spouse statistics confirm that 50 and 70 percent of married men (between 38 and 53 million men) have cheated or will cheat on their wives. One study found that 2/3 of the wives (26 to 36 million women) whose husbands were cheating had no idea their husbands were having an affair - largely because they failed to recognize the telltale signs.
Most experts do consider the 'educated guess' that at the present time some 50 to 65 percent of husbands and 45 to 55 percent of wives become extramarital involved by the age of 40. And in this case the difference does not seem to be so big.
I have nothing to add, just love each other and be loved. In case you have smth to say, I will be happy to hear.
Tuesday, April 10, 2007
Want to find out, Who masturbates more and why?
The answer to the question regarding the regularity of masturbation for men and women was bothering many people during the whole history. Find the answer on this questions in the concrete statistics gathered by scientists.
Many women masturbate, but they haven't beaten the men when it comes to solo sex frequency... at least not yet. Statistically speaking, various studies of the sexual behavior of men and women detailed connections between gender and self-stimulation. The authors of The Social Organization of Sexuality (Edward O. Laumann, John H. Gagnon, Robert T. Michael, and Stuart Michaels; University of Chicago Press, 1994) gathered information about masturbatory practices from face-to-face interviews and self-administered questionnaires of 2,969 men and women ranging in age from 18 to 59 years. The researchers found that 41.7 percent of women and 63.3 percent of men masturbated during the year studied. According to The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior (Samuel S. Janus and Cynthia L. Janus; John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 1993), based on a large-scale, nationwide survey of adult Americans ages 18 and up conducted between 1983 and 1992, 10 percent of women reported masturbating frequently (several times weekly or daily) vs. 25 percent of men. Similarly, 38 percent of women reported masturbating on a regular basis (monthly to daily) in comparison to 55 percent of men. The Kinsey Institute also published statistics about gender differences in masturbation. They were compiled from renowned sex researcher Alfred Kinsey's studies on the sexual behavior of men and women. According to Dr. Kinsey's 1948 and 1953 studies, based on detailed interviews with white American adults, 92 percent of men and 62 percent of women reported that they had masturbated.
Several reasons have been suggested to account for the lower percentage of women (vs. men) who have ever masturbated. Women are considered "good" when they adhere to their traditional sex role: to be sexually passive, naive, and dependent -- basically, to be nonsexual. Sexually experienced and independent women are frequently seen as threatening and "loose."
In addition, in many cultures, women are raised to believe that their genitals are repulsive and inferior to those of men. They're also encouraged to repress their sexual feelings until marriage, when sex is for the purposes of procreation and pleasing their husband. A woman learns that she is to receive sexual pleasure only from sexual intercourse (not from touching or oral sex, and especially not from masturbation) with her husband (not with anyone else or by herself). If a woman with a partner masturbates, it is often seen as though there's something wrong with her relationship. Likewise, if a woman is without a partner, masturbating is seen as an act of loneliness.
Not only is there a taboo for women to masturbate, but there's also a greater taboo against talking about it. No doubt, for some women (and some men), talking about sex can also be awkward, so shyness, as you mentioned in your question, may be another, though lesser, factor. It doesn't have to be this way. Masturbation is a healthy and natural part of sexuality. It enables people to learn about their own bodies and genitals as well as to recognize and develop their sexual responses or orgasms. It also helps to foster communication in intimate relationships by making it easier for partners to identify and express what feels good physically and sexually for them and to each other. Candid discussions about sexuality and sexual pleasure can help free women (and men) from the historically negative influences that have bound and prevented some women (and some men) from discovering, exploring, and enjoying their sexual selves. These conversations can make it easier to break the taboos and myths about masturbation and can encourage women (and men) to reach their healthy, sex-positive goals.
Many women masturbate, but they haven't beaten the men when it comes to solo sex frequency... at least not yet. Statistically speaking, various studies of the sexual behavior of men and women detailed connections between gender and self-stimulation. The authors of The Social Organization of Sexuality (Edward O. Laumann, John H. Gagnon, Robert T. Michael, and Stuart Michaels; University of Chicago Press, 1994) gathered information about masturbatory practices from face-to-face interviews and self-administered questionnaires of 2,969 men and women ranging in age from 18 to 59 years. The researchers found that 41.7 percent of women and 63.3 percent of men masturbated during the year studied. According to The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior (Samuel S. Janus and Cynthia L. Janus; John Wiley & Sons, Inc., 1993), based on a large-scale, nationwide survey of adult Americans ages 18 and up conducted between 1983 and 1992, 10 percent of women reported masturbating frequently (several times weekly or daily) vs. 25 percent of men. Similarly, 38 percent of women reported masturbating on a regular basis (monthly to daily) in comparison to 55 percent of men. The Kinsey Institute also published statistics about gender differences in masturbation. They were compiled from renowned sex researcher Alfred Kinsey's studies on the sexual behavior of men and women. According to Dr. Kinsey's 1948 and 1953 studies, based on detailed interviews with white American adults, 92 percent of men and 62 percent of women reported that they had masturbated.
Several reasons have been suggested to account for the lower percentage of women (vs. men) who have ever masturbated. Women are considered "good" when they adhere to their traditional sex role: to be sexually passive, naive, and dependent -- basically, to be nonsexual. Sexually experienced and independent women are frequently seen as threatening and "loose."
In addition, in many cultures, women are raised to believe that their genitals are repulsive and inferior to those of men. They're also encouraged to repress their sexual feelings until marriage, when sex is for the purposes of procreation and pleasing their husband. A woman learns that she is to receive sexual pleasure only from sexual intercourse (not from touching or oral sex, and especially not from masturbation) with her husband (not with anyone else or by herself). If a woman with a partner masturbates, it is often seen as though there's something wrong with her relationship. Likewise, if a woman is without a partner, masturbating is seen as an act of loneliness.
Not only is there a taboo for women to masturbate, but there's also a greater taboo against talking about it. No doubt, for some women (and some men), talking about sex can also be awkward, so shyness, as you mentioned in your question, may be another, though lesser, factor. It doesn't have to be this way. Masturbation is a healthy and natural part of sexuality. It enables people to learn about their own bodies and genitals as well as to recognize and develop their sexual responses or orgasms. It also helps to foster communication in intimate relationships by making it easier for partners to identify and express what feels good physically and sexually for them and to each other. Candid discussions about sexuality and sexual pleasure can help free women (and men) from the historically negative influences that have bound and prevented some women (and some men) from discovering, exploring, and enjoying their sexual selves. These conversations can make it easier to break the taboos and myths about masturbation and can encourage women (and men) to reach their healthy, sex-positive goals.
Monday, April 9, 2007
Some sex statistics for students (vaginal, oral, anal sex and contraception)
Today I was looking for some new and interesting information for my readers, and my search was not useless - I have found an intriguing statistical data (different ways of sex, contraception, desesses) for PITT university, which might be interesting not only for students, but for their parents as well!
I won't give you any analysis of this statistics - pure results!
I won't give you any analysis of this statistics - pure results!
- How old are you?
- 18 years - 13%
- 19 years - 22%
- 20 years - 28%
- 21 years - 22%
- 22 years - 10%
- 23-25 years - 4%
- 26+ years - 2%
- What is your gender?
- Male - 30%
- Female - 70%
- Male - 30%
- What is your class/academic level?
- Freshman - 23%
- Sophomore - 25%
- Junior - 35%
- Senior - 17%
- Freshman - 23%
- How do you usually describe yourself?
- White - 87%
- African American - 7%
- Asian/Pacific Islander - 3%
- American Indian/Alaskan Native - *
- Hispanic/Latino - 1%
- Other - 2%
- White - 87%
- What best describes your relationship status?
- Single - 39%
- Married/Dom.Partner - 2%
- Casual Dating - 15%
- Committed Dating - 45%
- Single - 39%
- Which of the following best describes you?
- Heterosexual - 96%
- Gay/Lesbian - 1%
- Bisexual - 2%
- Transgendered - *
- Unsure - *
- Heterosexual - 96%
- Where do you currently live?
- Campus Residence Hall - 39%
- Frat./Sor.Housing - 3%
- Off-Campus - 35%
- Other Univ. Housing - 5%
- Parents/Guardians House - 16%
- Other - 3%
- Campus Residence Hall - 39%
- Are you a member of a social fraternity or sorority?
- Yes - 10%
- No - 90%
- Yes - 10%
- During your lifetime how many sexual partner(s) have you had?
- Zero - 21%
- One - 28%
- Two - 14%
- Three - 10%
- Four - 8%
- Five - 5%
- Six - 3%
- Seven - 3%
- Eight - 1%
- Nine+ - 9%
- Zero - 21%
- During his/her lifetime how many sexual partners do you think the typical student at Pitt has had?
- Zero - 1%
- One - 3%
- Two - 12%
- Three - 21%
- Four - 25%
- Five - 17%
- Six - 7%
- Seven - 4%
- Eight - 2%
- Nine+ - 9%
- Zero - 1%
- Within the last school year with how many partners have you had vaginal intercourse?
- Zero - 31%
- One - 49%
- Two - 11%
- Three - 4%
- Four - 1%
- Five - 1%
- Six - 1%
- Seven - 0
- Eight - *
- Nine+ - *
- Zero - 31%
- Within the last school year how many partners have you had oral sex?
- Zero - 26%
- One - 52%
- Two - 9%
- Three - 6%
- Four - 2%
- Five - 1%
- Six - *
- Seven - *
- Eight - 1%
- Nine + - 3%
- Zero - 26%
- Within the last school year with how many partners have you had anal intercourse?
- Zero - 91%
- One - 7%
- Two - *
- Three - 0
- Four - *
- Five - 0
- Six - 0
- Seven - 0
- Eight - 0
- Nine + - 1%
- Zero - 91%
- Within the last school year with how many partners do you think the typical student at Pitt has had vaginal intercourse?
- Zero - 1%
- One - 10%
- Two - 35%
- Three - 21%
- Four - 16%
- Five - 10%
- Six - 3%
- Seven - 1%
- Eight - 1%
- Nine + - 8%
- Zero - 1%
- Within the last school year with how many partners do you think the typical student at Pitt has had oral sex?
- Zero - 1%
- One - 6%
- Two - 12%
- Three - 25%
- Four - 18%
- Five - 16%
- Six - 9%
- Seven - 3%
- Eight - 4%
- Nine + - 7%
- Zero - 1%
- Within the last school year with how many partners do you think the typical student at Pitt has had anal intercourse?
- Zero - 32%
- One - 37%
- Two - 20%
- Three - 5%
- Four - 3%
- Five - 2%
- Six - 0
- Seven - 0
- Eight - 0
- Nine + - 1%
- Zero - 32%
- Within the last 30 days how many times did you have vaginal intercourse?
- Zero - 47%
- One - 7%
- Two - 7%
- Three - 4%
- Four - 3%
- Five - 4%
- Six - 5%
- Seven - 1%
- Eight - 3%
- Nine + - 18%
- Zero - 47%
- Within the last 30 days how many times did you have oral sex?
- Zero - 51%
- One - 9%
- Two - 7%
- Three - 6%
- Four - 5%
- Five - 5%
- Six - 4%
- Seven - 1%
- Eight - 1%
- Nine + - 12%
- Zero - 51%
- Within the last 30 days how many times did you have anal intercourse?
- Zero - 97%
- One - 1%
- Two - *
- Three - *
- Four - *
- Five - 0
- Six - 0
- Seven - 0
- Eight - 0
- Nine + - 1%
- Zero - 97%
- Within the last 30 days how often did you or your partners use a condom during vaginal intercourse?
- Never - 40%**
- Rarely - 7% **
- Sometimes - 8%**
- Mostly - 12%**
- Always - 32%**
- Never - 40%**
- Within the last 30 days how often did you or your partners use a condom during oral sex?
- Never - 98%**
- Rarely - 1%**
- Sometimes - 2%**
- Mostly - 0
- Always - 0
- Never - 98%**
- Within the last 30 days how often did you or your partners use a dental dam/latex barrier during oral sex?
- Never - 99%**
- Rarely - 0
- Sometimes - 2%**
- Mostly - 0
- Always - 0
- Never - 99%**
- Within the last 30 days how often did you or your partners use a condom during anal intercourse?
- Never - 79%**
- Rarely - 7%**
- Sometimes - 7%**
- Mostly - 4%**
- Always - 4%**
- Never - 79%**
- Within the last 30 days how often do you think the typical student at Pitt has used a condom during vaginal intercourse?
- Doesn't Apply - 9%
- Never - 3%
- Rarely - 10%
- Sometimes - 36%
- Mostly - 40%
- Always - 2%
- Doesn't Apply - 9%
- Within the last 30 days how often do you think the typical student at Pitt has used a condom during oral sex?
- Doesn't Apply - 14%
- Never - 41%
- Rarely - 29%
- Sometimes - 13%
- Mostly - 3%
- Always - 1%
- Doesn't Apply - 14%
- Within the last 30 days how often do you think the typical student at Pitt has used a dental dam/latex barrier during oral sex?
- Doesn't Apply - 17%
- Never - 50%
- Rarely - 23%
- Sometimes - 8%
- Mostly - 1%
- Always - *
- Doesn't Apply - 17%
- Within the last 30 days how often do you think the typical student at Pitt has used a condom during anal intercourse?
- Doesn't Apply - 18%
- Never - 15%
- Rarely - 23%
- Sometimes - 26%
- Mostly - 16%
- Always - 2%
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- Did you use a condom the last time you had vaginal intercourse?
- YES - 50%**
- NO - 49%**
- DON'T KNOW - 1%**
- YES - 50%**
- Did you use a condom the last time you had oral sex?
- YES - 1%**
- NO - 98%**
- DON'T KNOW - 1%**
- YES - 1%**
- Did you use a dental dam the last time you had oral sex?
- YES - 1% **
- NO - 100%**
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - 1% **
- Did you use a condom the last time you had anal intercourse?
- YES - 6%**
- NO - 94% **
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- Within the last school year, have you or your partners used emergency contraception ("morning after pill")?
- YES - 11%**
- NO - 88%**
- DON'T KNOW - 1%**
- YES - 11%**
- Within the last school year have you unintentionally become pregnant or gotten someone else pregnant?
- YES - 2%**
- NO - 97%**
- DON'T KNOW -2%
- YES - 2%**
- If you have had vaginal intercourse, what method did you or your partner use to prevent pregnancy the last time?
- Birth control pills - 40%**
- Deprovera (shots)- 3%**
- Norplant (implant)- 0
- Condoms (male or female)- 37%**
- Diaphragm/Cervical cap/Sponge - 0
- Spermicide (foam)- 1%**
- Withdrawal- 6%**
- Calendar, Mucous or Basal Body Temperature - 0
- Nothing - 8%**
- Condom & spermicide - 4%**
- Other Method - 1% **
- Birth control pills - 40%**
- Within the last school year have you had Genital Herpes?
- YES - 1%
- NO - 98%
- DON'T KNOW - 1%
- YES - 1%
- Within the last school year have you had Genital Warts (HPV)?
- YES - 1%
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 1%
- YES - 1%
- Within the last school year have you had Hepatitis B?
- YES - 0
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 1%
- YES - 0
- Within the last school year have you had HIV infection?
- YES - 0
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 1%
- YES - 0
- Within the last school year have you had Chlamydia?
- YES - 1%
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 1%
- YES - 1%
- Within the last school year have you had Gonorrhea?
- YES - *
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 1%
- YES - *
- Within the last school year have you had Syphilis?
- YES - 1%
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 1%
- YES - 1%
- Within the last school year have you been tested for Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs)?
- YES - 21%**
- NO - 78%**
- DON'T KNOW - 1%**
- YES - 21%**
- Have you ever been tested for HIV infection?
- YES - 19%**
- NO - 80%**
- DON'T KNOW - * **
- YES - 19%**
- Have you ever been diagnosed with Genital Herpes?
- YES - 2%
- NO - 98%
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - 2%
- Have you ever been diagnosed with Genital Warts (HPV)?
- YES - *
- NO - 100%
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - *
- Have you ever been diagnosed with Hepatitis B?
- YES - 1%
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - 1%
- Have you ever been diagnosed with HIV infection?
- YES - 0
- NO - 100%
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - 0
- Have you ever been diagnosed with Chlamydia?
- YES - 1%
- NO - 99%
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - 1%
- Have you ever been diagnosed with Gonorrhea?
- YES - *
- NO - 100%
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - *
- Have you ever been diagnosed with Syphilis
- YES - *
- NO - 100%
- DON'T KNOW - 0
- YES - *
* Percentages below 1% but not 0
** Percentages do not include students that are abstinent
The information was taken from PiTT web site
Saturday, April 7, 2007
Internet Romance - Good Idea / Bad Idea?
Mary's quest in finding a suitable partner for romance seemed impossible. She found the singles scene at clubs to be uncomfortable and her social circle seemed to consist of more married friends with a shrinking amount of singles.
Although she had heard of internet dating and saw the ads, she had hesitated to take what she imagined was a rather drastic step. What would her experiences be like? How would she find someone online? What were the risks?
If you are in this situation then quite likely you've considered venturing into online dating to meet someone.
Our lives are increasingly dependant on technology as opposed to face-to-face contact. It is not at all surprising that millions have already ventured into online dating as a way to find a relationship rather than waiting for a chance meeting.
But what are some of the findings as researchers spend more time analyzing the behavior of online daters?
In a study reported on CBS News, 15% of Americans with internet access have visited an internet dating site. 27% of them were 18-29 years old. Obviously online dating is a popular pastime.
The same study showed that 33% of unmarried internet users thought that dating online was a safe way to meet people although 34% acknowledged knowing someone who had a bad experience.
In another study reported by BBC News, online dating was seen as a way for women to feel empowered in relationships. The conventional inhibitions that they had in face-to-face relationships were replaced by a more upfront and in-control attitude when given the anonymity of the internet. Could this improve their chances at finding a perfect relationship?
Professor Helen Petrie was quoted in the BBC interview as stating "There are people who lack interpersonal social skills and would find it very difficult to meet people in bars. They may find it easy to meet in an internet room, but they still have the problem of meeting them face to face and if they have gone too far with the internet relationship, they may find that traumatic."
The truth is, many individuals find the anonymity of online romance encourages a certain amount of exaggeration or lying. While some claim that we always hide things at the beginning of a relationship, trying to put our best foot forward, the internet makes it easier to hide such things as facial expressions, income, marital status and even criminal records.
So while you may find, like Mary, that finding a romance relationship in the 'real' world is difficult - if you are still considering online dating it is wise to use caution and common sense. Be careful what you say about yourself and try to verify as much information as possible before meeting or personally contacting anyone you've met online and never meet them alone.
Although she had heard of internet dating and saw the ads, she had hesitated to take what she imagined was a rather drastic step. What would her experiences be like? How would she find someone online? What were the risks?
If you are in this situation then quite likely you've considered venturing into online dating to meet someone.
Our lives are increasingly dependant on technology as opposed to face-to-face contact. It is not at all surprising that millions have already ventured into online dating as a way to find a relationship rather than waiting for a chance meeting.
But what are some of the findings as researchers spend more time analyzing the behavior of online daters?
In a study reported on CBS News, 15% of Americans with internet access have visited an internet dating site. 27% of them were 18-29 years old. Obviously online dating is a popular pastime.
The same study showed that 33% of unmarried internet users thought that dating online was a safe way to meet people although 34% acknowledged knowing someone who had a bad experience.
In another study reported by BBC News, online dating was seen as a way for women to feel empowered in relationships. The conventional inhibitions that they had in face-to-face relationships were replaced by a more upfront and in-control attitude when given the anonymity of the internet. Could this improve their chances at finding a perfect relationship?
Professor Helen Petrie was quoted in the BBC interview as stating "There are people who lack interpersonal social skills and would find it very difficult to meet people in bars. They may find it easy to meet in an internet room, but they still have the problem of meeting them face to face and if they have gone too far with the internet relationship, they may find that traumatic."
The truth is, many individuals find the anonymity of online romance encourages a certain amount of exaggeration or lying. While some claim that we always hide things at the beginning of a relationship, trying to put our best foot forward, the internet makes it easier to hide such things as facial expressions, income, marital status and even criminal records.
So while you may find, like Mary, that finding a romance relationship in the 'real' world is difficult - if you are still considering online dating it is wise to use caution and common sense. Be careful what you say about yourself and try to verify as much information as possible before meeting or personally contacting anyone you've met online and never meet them alone.
Friday, April 6, 2007
Tricking The Tricky: How To Tell If Your Cyber Date Is Lying
In online dating, we meet a lot of people through the tools of instant messaging, email, and chat rooms. But putting up a fake profile to others in chat settings is epidemic online. So you need some tips on how to spot what they call a “poser” online.
It’s a strange phenomenon but you meet someone in chat and they start to open up to you. Before long you figure out this person is posing. Posing takes on many forms. It might be a man posing as a woman. It might be someone not being his or her real age. You wonder, Why do they do it? Well the reasons, while sad, are not that hard to understand.
To get some attention. Being in a chat room and not getting any chats is a very lonely experience. If a guy cannot get a conversation with a girl, he might pose as a girl just for the conversation. They use the fake ID to replace what a good personality and ability to be real would get them otherwise.
In a word . . . for sex. The dirty underbelly of chat rooms is online sex. Now there is nothing wrong with cybersex in its own right, but when you are online to find a relationship, a romance and a soul mate, going straight to sex just doesn’t work. But for many online, that is all they want and by giving you the most attractive image they can dream up, they often get what they want.
To harvest future contacts. In some chat services, you can have multiple profiles or personas. So one ploy posers use is to meet you perhaps as the same gender as you are, become “friends” and learn what you like and dislike in a lover and then build a profile to give you just that thing. It’s manipulation and it’s wrong but it happens. So what you need are ways to sort out if the person you are chatting with is genuine or a fake. If you find a fake, you can decide what to do about it. You can block them and that’s that. Or you can try to help them come clean with you so you can build a real relationship with them. Or you can even go as far as reporting them so they will be punished by the service. My advice is politely bid them farewell and move on to greener pastures.
To sort out if the person you just met is really as wonderful as they seem or if they are a poser, be clever and alert as you talk and look for these clues:
Do they move too quickly to talk about sex? People that want a relationship don’t go there very fast. If they really want to get to know you they will go slow and not rush to get intimate online.
Do they try not to tell you very much about their past? Most people have rich histories to share from and many funny stories to tell. If your friend does not offer those generously, it might be because there is no past to the character he or she is playing.
Watch for gender mistakes. If you are dealing with a poser who is not being their real gender, they probably don’t understand the gender they are trying to portray. You have talked to a real girl and a genuine man; they will express themselves easily and appropriately.
Do they avoid voice contact, have few pictures or keep stalling on making contact via webcam? Then obviously they are not who they have presented to you. Even if they provide a picture, this may be so. It’s a sad thing to report but posers steal pictures to complete their “persona”.
Keep some notes on your talks, particularly about their personal details and history. The good thing about IM is you can save your talks as text files to refer to later. If the relationship goes for a while, they may not remember their own “past” very well and you can catch those mistakes which show they are lying.
After a while you will become skilled at flushing out posers and be able to identify them easily so you can move past those contacts and nurture relationships with genuine people who are being honest and open with you and want to develop that kind of romance, the kind that can grow and become a beautiful part of each of your lives.
It’s a strange phenomenon but you meet someone in chat and they start to open up to you. Before long you figure out this person is posing. Posing takes on many forms. It might be a man posing as a woman. It might be someone not being his or her real age. You wonder, Why do they do it? Well the reasons, while sad, are not that hard to understand.
To get some attention. Being in a chat room and not getting any chats is a very lonely experience. If a guy cannot get a conversation with a girl, he might pose as a girl just for the conversation. They use the fake ID to replace what a good personality and ability to be real would get them otherwise.
In a word . . . for sex. The dirty underbelly of chat rooms is online sex. Now there is nothing wrong with cybersex in its own right, but when you are online to find a relationship, a romance and a soul mate, going straight to sex just doesn’t work. But for many online, that is all they want and by giving you the most attractive image they can dream up, they often get what they want.
To harvest future contacts. In some chat services, you can have multiple profiles or personas. So one ploy posers use is to meet you perhaps as the same gender as you are, become “friends” and learn what you like and dislike in a lover and then build a profile to give you just that thing. It’s manipulation and it’s wrong but it happens. So what you need are ways to sort out if the person you are chatting with is genuine or a fake. If you find a fake, you can decide what to do about it. You can block them and that’s that. Or you can try to help them come clean with you so you can build a real relationship with them. Or you can even go as far as reporting them so they will be punished by the service. My advice is politely bid them farewell and move on to greener pastures.
To sort out if the person you just met is really as wonderful as they seem or if they are a poser, be clever and alert as you talk and look for these clues:
Do they move too quickly to talk about sex? People that want a relationship don’t go there very fast. If they really want to get to know you they will go slow and not rush to get intimate online.
Do they try not to tell you very much about their past? Most people have rich histories to share from and many funny stories to tell. If your friend does not offer those generously, it might be because there is no past to the character he or she is playing.
Watch for gender mistakes. If you are dealing with a poser who is not being their real gender, they probably don’t understand the gender they are trying to portray. You have talked to a real girl and a genuine man; they will express themselves easily and appropriately.
Do they avoid voice contact, have few pictures or keep stalling on making contact via webcam? Then obviously they are not who they have presented to you. Even if they provide a picture, this may be so. It’s a sad thing to report but posers steal pictures to complete their “persona”.
Keep some notes on your talks, particularly about their personal details and history. The good thing about IM is you can save your talks as text files to refer to later. If the relationship goes for a while, they may not remember their own “past” very well and you can catch those mistakes which show they are lying.
After a while you will become skilled at flushing out posers and be able to identify them easily so you can move past those contacts and nurture relationships with genuine people who are being honest and open with you and want to develop that kind of romance, the kind that can grow and become a beautiful part of each of your lives.
Thursday, April 5, 2007
Adult dating - what can you expact
Adult dating services are available online for nominal fees and offer a variety of options for those seeking a union of more carnal persuasions.
While typical dating sites have the goal of finding love interests for single people, so called "adult dating" is usually a reference for those seeking sex with consensual, likeminded adults.
This could mean a match between two people or even couples and large groups. Many people seek adult dating services for the sake of anonymity or just because it is easier than scoping out public places, such as bars, to meet people.
Online dating has become a big business and it was inevitable that the sex industry merged with the normally docile matchmaking business.
One of the reasons people seek online adult dating services is because it allows people to be very specific in their search for a partner or partners. One can do searches on a database for men seeking women, men seeking men, women seeking men, women seeking women, couples or even sex parties. Photos often accompany the adult dating profiles and some sites even allow web cams and voice recordings to help participants become acquainted.
Not all adult dating services are for the purpose of people meeting in person. Some people are merely seeking out those to engage in cyber sex with. This could prove to be much safer than other options, such as one on one meetings or even group functions.
Although a reputable online dating service will often offer some sort of criminal background checks on its applicants, this can be a lot trickier with adult dating, as many people are seeking anonymity in their searches for whatever personal reasons. For example, someone with a conservative public image may not wish to share with the world their sexual fetish or preference.
Fetishes are often a feature of an adult dating site that isn't available with a regular matchmaking service. Some people may prefer a certain dress size for a partner or racial heritage.
Still others may have even more specific and unusual tastes, which can be hard to find in a consenting adult without the aid of an adult dating site. One should note that while these sites do not pass judgment on consensual, adult preferences, there should be no illegal activity engaged in with an adult dating site.
Things involving drugs, minors or other illegal acts are strictly prohibited. The cost of membership for adult dating is usually small and automatically deducted each month from a credit card.
Women should note that there are some sites that allow free membership for those of the fairer sex, which is probably due to the imbalanced ratio of men to women.
Sexual predators and con artists have an easy time preying on people in the virtual world. Permitting that consensual adults are practicing safe and legal sex through the services of an adult dating site, there shouldn't be any problems that arise.
While typical dating sites have the goal of finding love interests for single people, so called "adult dating" is usually a reference for those seeking sex with consensual, likeminded adults.
This could mean a match between two people or even couples and large groups. Many people seek adult dating services for the sake of anonymity or just because it is easier than scoping out public places, such as bars, to meet people.
Online dating has become a big business and it was inevitable that the sex industry merged with the normally docile matchmaking business.
One of the reasons people seek online adult dating services is because it allows people to be very specific in their search for a partner or partners. One can do searches on a database for men seeking women, men seeking men, women seeking men, women seeking women, couples or even sex parties. Photos often accompany the adult dating profiles and some sites even allow web cams and voice recordings to help participants become acquainted.
Not all adult dating services are for the purpose of people meeting in person. Some people are merely seeking out those to engage in cyber sex with. This could prove to be much safer than other options, such as one on one meetings or even group functions.
Although a reputable online dating service will often offer some sort of criminal background checks on its applicants, this can be a lot trickier with adult dating, as many people are seeking anonymity in their searches for whatever personal reasons. For example, someone with a conservative public image may not wish to share with the world their sexual fetish or preference.
Fetishes are often a feature of an adult dating site that isn't available with a regular matchmaking service. Some people may prefer a certain dress size for a partner or racial heritage.
Still others may have even more specific and unusual tastes, which can be hard to find in a consenting adult without the aid of an adult dating site. One should note that while these sites do not pass judgment on consensual, adult preferences, there should be no illegal activity engaged in with an adult dating site.
Things involving drugs, minors or other illegal acts are strictly prohibited. The cost of membership for adult dating is usually small and automatically deducted each month from a credit card.
Women should note that there are some sites that allow free membership for those of the fairer sex, which is probably due to the imbalanced ratio of men to women.
Sexual predators and con artists have an easy time preying on people in the virtual world. Permitting that consensual adults are practicing safe and legal sex through the services of an adult dating site, there shouldn't be any problems that arise.
Wednesday, April 4, 2007
Some hints for tender orgasms
Popular imagery can make us all feel inferior and inadequate when it comes to getting into bed and making love. Men "should" be studs who thrust away for hours until their lover collapses in a moaning exhausted heap, after of course she's had five mind-blowing orgasms in a row. Women "should" be moaning goddesses who come as their man thrusts deep into them while he holds them firmly and takes them to ecstasy. At least, that's what you might think if you get your ideas of lovemaking from most romantic movies.
(If you get your ideas about sex from porn films, then you might have an even more unrealistic view of sex. Men with nine inch erections dispassionately using women for their own pleasure is something we are not going to talk about)
The truth is that most men come quite quickly, and many don't know how to control their ejaculation - or they've long since given up trying to - while most women never come at all during vaginal intercourse. That may be hard to believe; maybe you even think there's something wrong with you if you're a man who can't make love for ages or you're a woman who can't come during intercourse, but the research confirms these things are normal.One survey, by VulvaVelvet, revealed that less than 20% of women (i.e. 1 woman in 5) always expects to come during intercourse without any additional clitoral stimulation. Other surveys have produced similar results: about 20 years ago, Shere Hite's research showed that only 26% of women were able to reach orgasm during intercourse without clitoral stimulation. Most of the rest never did, and then only if they had a helping hand on their clitoris. And nothing seems to have changed as time has gone by!
However, maybe this is missing the point. Maybe we should be asking, "Does this matter?" I guess the answer depends on what each woman wants. If what she actually wants is to have sex last longer, for it to involve more touching, caressing, oral sex and intimacy before penetration, and to have one or more orgasms during this time, then the solution lies in her man taking a different approach to sex. If, however, what she wants is to have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse, then she needs a sex position that is more likely to deliver it - and a man who can last long enough to make sure it happens.
So, here are some hints about positions, which might help you. I'm going to assume that most women need a clitoral stimulation, to reach orgasm, during intercourse or not.
First then, is the good old man on top or missionary position. In this position normally the penis doesn't go anywhere near the clitoris during intercourse. But the "normal" man on top position can be modified so that there's more clitoral stimulation, using what's called the Coital Alignment Technique. After the man enters his partner, face to face, him on top, he shifts his body higher up, so that his penis is entering her vagina from a sharper angle. The base of his penis will then be pressed against the area of her clitoris. The thing is, he doesn't thrust. In fact, he pretty much lies on his partner with his body shifted up hers, and the couple rock their pelvises against each other until they both come.
The next likely candidate for a magnificent orgasm is the woman on top position. The reason this can be good for her is that she can move at the pace, and adjust the angle and depth of penetration so that she gets the stimulation on her clitoris and vagina most likely to bring her to orgasm.
There are another two positions to consider if you're into orgasmic intercourse. First off, if rear entry does it for you, there's ample opportunity in this position for either partner to play with her clitoris during sex. Timing it so that she comes before he does is crucial, and he may need to slow down or stop thrusting during sex to allow her to get near her orgasm. If you time it right, you may even be able to reach your orgasms at the same time.
And finally, in this roll call of positions for orgasm, is the side by side, facing each other position. It's much more romantic than the rear entry position, which some women think is a bit impersonal, and it allows for both gentle, slow lovemaking and faster thrusting. Either he or she can easily reach down and play with her clitoris, keeping the pace right until it's time to climax.
Of course this is not the full list of helping positions, and I will be happy to hear other opinions and successful strategies.
(If you get your ideas about sex from porn films, then you might have an even more unrealistic view of sex. Men with nine inch erections dispassionately using women for their own pleasure is something we are not going to talk about)
The truth is that most men come quite quickly, and many don't know how to control their ejaculation - or they've long since given up trying to - while most women never come at all during vaginal intercourse. That may be hard to believe; maybe you even think there's something wrong with you if you're a man who can't make love for ages or you're a woman who can't come during intercourse, but the research confirms these things are normal.One survey, by VulvaVelvet, revealed that less than 20% of women (i.e. 1 woman in 5) always expects to come during intercourse without any additional clitoral stimulation. Other surveys have produced similar results: about 20 years ago, Shere Hite's research showed that only 26% of women were able to reach orgasm during intercourse without clitoral stimulation. Most of the rest never did, and then only if they had a helping hand on their clitoris. And nothing seems to have changed as time has gone by!
However, maybe this is missing the point. Maybe we should be asking, "Does this matter?" I guess the answer depends on what each woman wants. If what she actually wants is to have sex last longer, for it to involve more touching, caressing, oral sex and intimacy before penetration, and to have one or more orgasms during this time, then the solution lies in her man taking a different approach to sex. If, however, what she wants is to have an orgasm during vaginal intercourse, then she needs a sex position that is more likely to deliver it - and a man who can last long enough to make sure it happens.
So, here are some hints about positions, which might help you. I'm going to assume that most women need a clitoral stimulation, to reach orgasm, during intercourse or not.
First then, is the good old man on top or missionary position. In this position normally the penis doesn't go anywhere near the clitoris during intercourse. But the "normal" man on top position can be modified so that there's more clitoral stimulation, using what's called the Coital Alignment Technique. After the man enters his partner, face to face, him on top, he shifts his body higher up, so that his penis is entering her vagina from a sharper angle. The base of his penis will then be pressed against the area of her clitoris. The thing is, he doesn't thrust. In fact, he pretty much lies on his partner with his body shifted up hers, and the couple rock their pelvises against each other until they both come.
The next likely candidate for a magnificent orgasm is the woman on top position. The reason this can be good for her is that she can move at the pace, and adjust the angle and depth of penetration so that she gets the stimulation on her clitoris and vagina most likely to bring her to orgasm.
There are another two positions to consider if you're into orgasmic intercourse. First off, if rear entry does it for you, there's ample opportunity in this position for either partner to play with her clitoris during sex. Timing it so that she comes before he does is crucial, and he may need to slow down or stop thrusting during sex to allow her to get near her orgasm. If you time it right, you may even be able to reach your orgasms at the same time.
And finally, in this roll call of positions for orgasm, is the side by side, facing each other position. It's much more romantic than the rear entry position, which some women think is a bit impersonal, and it allows for both gentle, slow lovemaking and faster thrusting. Either he or she can easily reach down and play with her clitoris, keeping the pace right until it's time to climax.
Of course this is not the full list of helping positions, and I will be happy to hear other opinions and successful strategies.
Is Online Dating Cheating
The Great Debate: Is Online Dating Really Cheating?
If someone merely chats with another online and never makes the effort to engage in any sort of physical relationship, can you really say that the individual is cheating? That question is truly a matter of debate. While most couples would agree that there is a sort of emotional infidelity that takes place when a partner engages in love-related conversation on a long-term basis with another, some couples hold their ground and say that as long as neither party acts upon an interest, then no cheating has taken place.
When it comes to committed relationships, there is a meeting of minds as well as a physical union. Those folks that believe that online cheating is not really cheating subscribe to the belief that cheating is necessarily physical. Therefore, any conversation or communication is merely a sort of fantasy that could even help to strengthen a relationship.
However, the other side of the debate is that when there is an emotional bond that is allowed to be developed online with an online suitor, the cheater detracts from his relationship with his significant other in an unhealthy way and is truly cheating. Not only has he or she diverged from the healthy relationship, but he jeopardizes losing a partner.
What do you do if you are tempted to cheat?
When it comes to finding love and partnership online, there are a number of places that you can turn to if you do not wish to cheat. You may be lonely and simply looking for some sort of friendship or companionship that you do not receive from your spouse. Or perhaps you have an interest in a certain hobby that your spouse does not share.
Instead of looking for a significant other with which to share life’s pleasures, take time to look for a local interest group - either online or through a community organization. It is important to you establish individuality from your mate, no matter how much you love him or her. But while establishing that individuality, you must maintain your loyalty to the bond that you share.
Seek same-sex friends or friends that you will not get involved in any sort of romantic relationship with. Find hobbies that involve groups of people, rather than one-on-one events. It is also important that you keep your spouse in the loop so that he or she does not feel isolated from your life. After all, you have committed to sharing life together, and this includes and interest in the private side of each other’s life.
If someone merely chats with another online and never makes the effort to engage in any sort of physical relationship, can you really say that the individual is cheating? That question is truly a matter of debate. While most couples would agree that there is a sort of emotional infidelity that takes place when a partner engages in love-related conversation on a long-term basis with another, some couples hold their ground and say that as long as neither party acts upon an interest, then no cheating has taken place.
When it comes to committed relationships, there is a meeting of minds as well as a physical union. Those folks that believe that online cheating is not really cheating subscribe to the belief that cheating is necessarily physical. Therefore, any conversation or communication is merely a sort of fantasy that could even help to strengthen a relationship.
However, the other side of the debate is that when there is an emotional bond that is allowed to be developed online with an online suitor, the cheater detracts from his relationship with his significant other in an unhealthy way and is truly cheating. Not only has he or she diverged from the healthy relationship, but he jeopardizes losing a partner.
What do you do if you are tempted to cheat?
When it comes to finding love and partnership online, there are a number of places that you can turn to if you do not wish to cheat. You may be lonely and simply looking for some sort of friendship or companionship that you do not receive from your spouse. Or perhaps you have an interest in a certain hobby that your spouse does not share.
Instead of looking for a significant other with which to share life’s pleasures, take time to look for a local interest group - either online or through a community organization. It is important to you establish individuality from your mate, no matter how much you love him or her. But while establishing that individuality, you must maintain your loyalty to the bond that you share.
Seek same-sex friends or friends that you will not get involved in any sort of romantic relationship with. Find hobbies that involve groups of people, rather than one-on-one events. It is also important that you keep your spouse in the loop so that he or she does not feel isolated from your life. After all, you have committed to sharing life together, and this includes and interest in the private side of each other’s life.
Benefiting from sex
Quick quiz: Would you rather run 75 miles or have sex three times per week for a year? Research shows that both activities burn the same number of calories. (7,500, to be exact.)
We often think that something that feels good can’t possibly be good for us. Now it’s time to think again.
Sex in a loving, intimate relationship has numerous health benefits. In women, for example, the sexual act triggers the release of oxytocin. Oxytocin promotes feelings of affection and triggers that nurturing instinct. In men, sex encourages the flow of testosterone, which strengthens bones and muscles and helps transport DHEA, a hormone that may be important in the function of the body’s immune system.
Paul Pearsall, Ph.D., author of Superimmunity, also maintains that sex in a loving relationship helps the immune system by increasing the flow of certain chemicals in the body.
Hugh O’Neill, editor of Men’s Health magazine, recently listed some health benefits of sex, as well. Regular sex is regular exercise and has similar benefits, including improved cholesterol levels and increased circulation. Men’s Health also reported that men who have sex at least three times each week may have a decreased risk of developing prostate problems.
Sex, like exercise, releases endorphins. Endorphins contribute to the runner’s high and diminishes pain levels.
An active sex life may help us live longer, too. Dr. David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at Scotland’s Royal Edinburgh Hospital, conducted a study of 3,500 people ranging in age from 18 to 102. Weeks concluded that sex actually slows the aging process.
Sexual therapists remind us that frequent sex is a form of exercise. And feeling secure in a relationship leads to feeling happier, which could lead to greater health--and a younger look.
In fact, these studies indicate that intimacy plays a key role in the health benefits of sex. A promiscuous sexual relationship may actually produce an opposite effect by introducing a sense of anxiety and fear.
In spite of all these health benefits and the sheer pleasure of the act, Americans may still need a boost. At least one-third of American couples report "inhibited sexual desire," according to The Masters and Johnson Institute.
Sex therapists say sex acts on the principal of "use it or lose it." So, for your heart, mind, and soul, the best advice may be to "Just do it!"
We often think that something that feels good can’t possibly be good for us. Now it’s time to think again.
Sex in a loving, intimate relationship has numerous health benefits. In women, for example, the sexual act triggers the release of oxytocin. Oxytocin promotes feelings of affection and triggers that nurturing instinct. In men, sex encourages the flow of testosterone, which strengthens bones and muscles and helps transport DHEA, a hormone that may be important in the function of the body’s immune system.
Paul Pearsall, Ph.D., author of Superimmunity, also maintains that sex in a loving relationship helps the immune system by increasing the flow of certain chemicals in the body.
Hugh O’Neill, editor of Men’s Health magazine, recently listed some health benefits of sex, as well. Regular sex is regular exercise and has similar benefits, including improved cholesterol levels and increased circulation. Men’s Health also reported that men who have sex at least three times each week may have a decreased risk of developing prostate problems.
Sex, like exercise, releases endorphins. Endorphins contribute to the runner’s high and diminishes pain levels.
An active sex life may help us live longer, too. Dr. David Weeks, a clinical neuropsychologist at Scotland’s Royal Edinburgh Hospital, conducted a study of 3,500 people ranging in age from 18 to 102. Weeks concluded that sex actually slows the aging process.
Sexual therapists remind us that frequent sex is a form of exercise. And feeling secure in a relationship leads to feeling happier, which could lead to greater health--and a younger look.
In fact, these studies indicate that intimacy plays a key role in the health benefits of sex. A promiscuous sexual relationship may actually produce an opposite effect by introducing a sense of anxiety and fear.
In spite of all these health benefits and the sheer pleasure of the act, Americans may still need a boost. At least one-third of American couples report "inhibited sexual desire," according to The Masters and Johnson Institute.
Sex therapists say sex acts on the principal of "use it or lose it." So, for your heart, mind, and soul, the best advice may be to "Just do it!"
Finding Love On The Internet In Midlife
Single women in midlife are often interested in getting back in the dating game, but they don’t know how to go about it. After years or even decades of marriages that ended in divorce or the death of a spouse, how do women in their 40’s, 50’s, and 60’s meet men these days?
An increasingly popular—and successful—way is through Internet dating. Judsen Culbreth, author of The Boomers‚ Guide to Online Dating (Rodale, 2005), answers FAQs about finding love online:
Why is online dating a good choice for single women in midlife?
First, mature daters are the big growth industry, and men are more likely to be online than women. Men like technology, and they feel that online dating is a logical choice. It’s a great way to screen candidates. Everyone is a prequalified prospect; they’ve said, I want to date. Where else can you go to get applications for a relationship? People disclose things they would never say in a bar. It’s more of a sure shot. And it’s a less stressful way to meet people. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to go there.
What would you say to women who are reluctant to try it?
Some are hesitant because they’re still waiting for Prince Charming to show up. They want meeting someone to be fate. That’s likely to happen when you’re young—in high school and college or just out of college—because everyone is single and you mix and mingle all the time. As you get older, most of your friends are married and it’s much harder to meet available men. That’s why more and more women 35 and older are trying online dating sites. It’s a simple and effective way to meet people.
Do you advise women to post their profile on a variety of sites or choose one and stay with it?
Just as you’d go to a department store if you needed a lot of items, and to a boutique for that one special thing, you should visit a variety of Internet dating sites. Try some of the big ones, like Match.com and Matchmaker.com. These have millions of users so you can get a lot of what you want—geography, income, personal habits. There are so many people using them that you’re more likely to find someone. And if you have something specific that’s important to you, like religion or ethnicity, go to one of those sites. Do both; it’s so cheap, a subscription is less than one night out on a date.
What are some tips for creating a good profile?
A positive attitude is very important. Midlife daters want honesty, warmth, and shared activities. We’re heading into the best years of our lives—we’re more likely to be financially secure and have free time. We want people who are fun to be with. Avoid the pitfall of asking for too much. At this stage, you’re just trying to meet someone—don’t list every quality a person must have. Talk about yourself. This can be hard for women in midlife because we have so many roles, but this is about you, not your family or your past relationships. And do post a photo. If you don’t, it’s a red flag.
How computer savvy do you have to be to use Internet dating?
If you can e-mail and get on the Internet, you can date online. If you can’t post a photo, many sites will help you. And there are helplines for any questions or problems you may have. Dating sites make it as easy as possible to use them.
Visit some Internet dating sites, and see if they might be something you’d like to try. Whether you’re looking for a committed partner, a husband, or just someone to go to the movies with, you have a great chance to find him online.
An increasingly popular—and successful—way is through Internet dating. Judsen Culbreth, author of The Boomers‚ Guide to Online Dating (Rodale, 2005), answers FAQs about finding love online:
Why is online dating a good choice for single women in midlife?
First, mature daters are the big growth industry, and men are more likely to be online than women. Men like technology, and they feel that online dating is a logical choice. It’s a great way to screen candidates. Everyone is a prequalified prospect; they’ve said, I want to date. Where else can you go to get applications for a relationship? People disclose things they would never say in a bar. It’s more of a sure shot. And it’s a less stressful way to meet people. If you don’t like someone, you don’t have to go there.
What would you say to women who are reluctant to try it?
Some are hesitant because they’re still waiting for Prince Charming to show up. They want meeting someone to be fate. That’s likely to happen when you’re young—in high school and college or just out of college—because everyone is single and you mix and mingle all the time. As you get older, most of your friends are married and it’s much harder to meet available men. That’s why more and more women 35 and older are trying online dating sites. It’s a simple and effective way to meet people.
Do you advise women to post their profile on a variety of sites or choose one and stay with it?
Just as you’d go to a department store if you needed a lot of items, and to a boutique for that one special thing, you should visit a variety of Internet dating sites. Try some of the big ones, like Match.com and Matchmaker.com. These have millions of users so you can get a lot of what you want—geography, income, personal habits. There are so many people using them that you’re more likely to find someone. And if you have something specific that’s important to you, like religion or ethnicity, go to one of those sites. Do both; it’s so cheap, a subscription is less than one night out on a date.
What are some tips for creating a good profile?
A positive attitude is very important. Midlife daters want honesty, warmth, and shared activities. We’re heading into the best years of our lives—we’re more likely to be financially secure and have free time. We want people who are fun to be with. Avoid the pitfall of asking for too much. At this stage, you’re just trying to meet someone—don’t list every quality a person must have. Talk about yourself. This can be hard for women in midlife because we have so many roles, but this is about you, not your family or your past relationships. And do post a photo. If you don’t, it’s a red flag.
How computer savvy do you have to be to use Internet dating?
If you can e-mail and get on the Internet, you can date online. If you can’t post a photo, many sites will help you. And there are helplines for any questions or problems you may have. Dating sites make it as easy as possible to use them.
Visit some Internet dating sites, and see if they might be something you’d like to try. Whether you’re looking for a committed partner, a husband, or just someone to go to the movies with, you have a great chance to find him online.
Good advices for finding Love in Internet
If anyone asks what love is, then you can tell that love can be called as eternity. Well then, if they want to know the answer of what eternity is, it can be told that eternity is "Internet".
Depending on this, if they ask finding love in this eternity, you can exactly answer as "yes" without thinking.
Most popular subject of last 5 years is "virtual dating". There are thousands of dating sites on the Internet.
You can read lots of "success stories" or "happy love stories" but there are also lots of "fake loves and people" that can be heard.
Love on Internet is quite exciting, fantastic but also it is a risky process. We advice that you take care of it.
In spite of this, if you insist on tasting love on the Internet, then try some dating services.
Don't forget; no one can know where and how love will begin and go on. While you are full of this exciting process, do not forget the risks that can come out.
Don't confuse virtual love and real love to each other. This becomes misfortune. Because in virtual relationships, most of the reality remains beyond the screen. :)
Despite to these riskies, I tell that "Everone shall taste virtual love.". If you haven't tasted it, then try to find your love.
There are some important points that must be carefull in virtual love:
- During the time before face-to-face meeting, please make your conversations with web cam. By this, you can at least see his/her face on web cam and have an opinion on his/her physical appearance.
- Do not talk on phone frequently. Mystery can be lost.
- Do not say "I love you" while writing. It comes unconvincing.
- If your economic situation is good, then do not express this. It becomes no good :)Take care of virtual hunters.
- And the most important point is that not having virtual sex. Because it is one of the reasons that kill virtual love. :)
Obey these advices and be happy :)
Definitely they are not valid for every person but experiences always give lessons.
I wish lots of love, hot hours and beautiful days to everyone.
Don't be without love...Hug the love :)
Depending on this, if they ask finding love in this eternity, you can exactly answer as "yes" without thinking.
Most popular subject of last 5 years is "virtual dating". There are thousands of dating sites on the Internet.
You can read lots of "success stories" or "happy love stories" but there are also lots of "fake loves and people" that can be heard.
Love on Internet is quite exciting, fantastic but also it is a risky process. We advice that you take care of it.
In spite of this, if you insist on tasting love on the Internet, then try some dating services.
Don't forget; no one can know where and how love will begin and go on. While you are full of this exciting process, do not forget the risks that can come out.
Don't confuse virtual love and real love to each other. This becomes misfortune. Because in virtual relationships, most of the reality remains beyond the screen. :)
Despite to these riskies, I tell that "Everone shall taste virtual love.". If you haven't tasted it, then try to find your love.
There are some important points that must be carefull in virtual love:
- During the time before face-to-face meeting, please make your conversations with web cam. By this, you can at least see his/her face on web cam and have an opinion on his/her physical appearance.
- Do not talk on phone frequently. Mystery can be lost.
- Do not say "I love you" while writing. It comes unconvincing.
- If your economic situation is good, then do not express this. It becomes no good :)Take care of virtual hunters.
- And the most important point is that not having virtual sex. Because it is one of the reasons that kill virtual love. :)
Obey these advices and be happy :)
Definitely they are not valid for every person but experiences always give lessons.
I wish lots of love, hot hours and beautiful days to everyone.
Don't be without love...Hug the love :)
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